#10 I Wish You Love

To all those who happen to be EMO,


Some night, memories of the past flashed back,
perhaps triggered by an unprepared coincidence,
or a message which you thought you never want to receive.
You vaguely remembered how it felt been out of love.
You sighed, perhaps a tug at your chest.
Your long-heal wound hurts slightly again.

As far as you could remember, it was not a pleasant journey to go through.
At the same time, you are grateful that somehow or rather
you survived through the toughest stormy weather.
The sunshine eventually come and made you to who you are today.

You realise, it's just someone who you have been with for sometime, gone.
Out of your life.
And that someone has become someone else. That's all.
The dreadful moments and memories had gone for long and for good.
Maybe....Maybe
The time has come to wish them with all our loves, while waiting for the sign that signals us
to welcome the next better player.

One of my most likeable versions by Rachael Yamagata.

(if song does not auto play in 15 seconds, click here)

I wish you blue bird in the spring

To give your heart a song to sing

And then a kiss, but more than this

I wish you love

And then July a lemonade

To cool you in some leafy glade

I wish you health but more than wealth

I wish you love

My breaking heart and I agree

That you and I could never be

So with my best, my very best

I set you free

I wish you shelter from a storm

A cosy fire to keep you warm

But most of all, when snowflakes fall

I wish you love

My breaking heart and I agree

That you and I could never be

So with my best, my very best

I set you free

I wish you shelter from a storm

A cosy fire to keep you warm

But most of all, when snowflakes fall

I wish you love

And most of all, and snowflakes fall

I wish you...

#9 The North and The South, The Mars and The Venus

First and foremost, I would like to thank those who had contributed ideas and contents to this blog. BGR (boy-girl relationship) has always been the hot topic in conversations/discussions within any group of demographics. And I really appreciate for the chance to be the only girl in a group discussion with some nice guy friends who shared some of the strategies, techniques and comments without any reservations. It really enhances the statement of "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus".

Sometimes we wonder how can a guy and a girl's thinking be so distinctive? Generally, from a female standpoint, the thing we ask for is very simple - Attention. We can never understand why our boyfriends rather play their favourite computer games than spending time listening to us on the phone. We can never understand why they can stay up watching soccer games all night long, getting themselves so tired when we are on a date the following day.

Likewise, men withdraw to their own world until they find a solution to a problem. This allow them time to distance themselves from the problem, focus on something else until they revisit the problem with new perspectives. But ladies require to talk about the issues when they are stress or in need for a solution. And if this attention span is not given, the major conflict between the two genders will begin.

During the discussion, I came to know how one of them spent effort during the courtship. One of his actions was, picking up 1218 of saga seeds (the number happen to be the girl's birthdate), placed in a very nice bottle with small framed photo of the two of them. The idea is simple, but the process was tedious. He made 2 trips down to the park due to insufficient seeds collected in the first attempt. Then, finding a nice glass bottle, suspend the framed photo at the centre of the bottle. It was not easy as it is been said.

(The above picture is solely for illustration. It is not the actual product.)

When the present was presented to the girl on her birthday, though she was moved, but he wasn't accepted as her boyfriend. Instead, after the event, she was expecting for another touching move or gift from him to make it official. Most guys will wonder, " What the hell? What else she want? Hadn't him done enough?" However, it wasn't our intention to make things difficult. In fact, it is only a different way of calculations. A guy may think that his effort worth 40 points, but a girl calculates the presents not as a whole.


Gift itself = 1 point, Nice bottle = 1 point, with nice photo of hers = 1 point, saga seeds = 1 points, candles and music = 1 point, with cards = 1 point, flowers = 1 point etc...


Thus men's perceived value of his effort may be different from ladies as we calculate differently! As a result, guy complained to their friends, wonder what went wrong for not receiving enough appreciations. Then a pattern of thinking begins to form. "No use for doing so much, they don't appreciate at all! " Eventually, the ladies grumbled, for insufficient effort made. It sounds familiar, isn't it?


To figure out the differences is not difficult. Both parties need to be more observant (which most of the guys hated), have more patience and be more understanding to each other.

A good suggestion for guys is to read women's magazine (not looking at pretty pictures but reading their stories). It is also to my surprise that some guys are smart enough to start it out already.


I can't really offer ways on getting girls to understand how a guy think for the fact that I am not a guy! Guys should be in a better position to advise on this. Any takers? Something I can think of is asking a guy instead of our girlfriends' opinions and heed them with open mind.


As a girl, we can never understand what is going on in their minds just like they don't understand what is going on in ours! As much as possible, avoid guessing games which are too difficult. At the very end of the day, guys are much more simple-minded than we think they are. Don't you agree?

#8 First Look

Oops, apologise for been MIA for so long. Recently was tied down to my work at the same time, my stomach has been upsetting me the whole week. Couldn't understand the reason why, but I assume everything is ok for the fact that I hate to see a doctor.

Lately I had a colleague who is now known by my ex-colleague, just had his job switched to Jap advertising firm. Then he sms us saying that the Jap chicks there are really hot and cute with really mini skirts.

Then it actually strikes me, are we all superficial creatures? Our eyes are naturally attracted to beautiful things or people. I am not refering to everyone but rather generally, well of course including of me. Our eyes follow whenever hunks or chicks walked past us.

Yesterday I saw 3 models-look-alike walking past in Esplanade. I couldn't calculate how many times I turned back just wanting to see them more. Sometimes I wonder, how does it feel to be one who attract attention in a good way. You probably got to have a very good figure, irresistiable charm and a perfect combination of features.

The importance of look seem to be very common or has become one of the conditions when it comes to looking for a partner. So does a person's character matters anymore? I really have no idea. I don't really believe in love at first sight actually. I thought it was rather superficial. But what drawns 2 people together? Does it all starts with the first impression? And what if she/he ended up not the kind of person that you thought it was suppose to be?

I guess each one of us has a different set of criteria. What sets the heartbeat to race faster than the normal could be anything. But before the adrenaline rush takes over, remember to look in depth rather than the surface.

#7 The Big Confession?

Telling someone you like him/her is rather difficult for some people. Especially when you are unsure of that person's feeling. Tradionally, guys are always the one who initiate the confession. Ladies will just have to drop hints here and there, hoping the one they like will somehow or rather 'catch' it.

But ladies, is the 21st century!! We no longer have or must be the passive one waiting for the love confession to drop somehow. We can chose to be the one or not be the one to make the first step for our relationship. We have a choice which may or may not put us on a better position. Why do I say so?

The Pros

- No more waiting!
- No more guessing game!!
- Know instantly if is a open door or shut door for your relationship.


The Cons

- Making things too easy for guys
- Allow excuse for guys not to do anything
- Self-esteem


Of course all these above are my personal opinions. You either agree more or disagree more to it. It doesn't matter. What matter most is everyone went through the same stage or had the experience of struggling whether to express your love to the one you like.

To decide whether is a Yes to confess is not easy. A lot of courage are needed. Will the confession serves a back-fire to the friendship? Most Asian have this kind of in-depth consideration, while caucasians tend to be more open.

Don't have too many thoughts on confession. Trust and believe that confession is just a way to express your feelings. Caucasians did it so easily.

I had confession before and it was heart attack at the beginning. But it really gave me a clear picture on whether is it just only a friendship or love.

Relax, is just a confession. If too much thoughts given, nothing will get started. You can just wait and wait until the cows come home. Letting love just by-pass you time and again (no wonder you are still single). Be the proactive one for the ladies may be a bit hard if you measure it against the self-esteem. I understand. It is a give and take. You either be the taker or the giver. You chose.

#6 Why Singles In Love?

Over lunch, someone actually dropped me a question as to why I named my blog as Singlesinlove? My answer to that was very simple. Wouldn't that brings you to find out why in my blog? Haha.

Well, the only thing I thought of was why can't the singles be in love too as well?

As long as your status remains Single, you can be either available or the other way round. Sometimes even the loveliest couple would also want to have some time for their own. That is why my blog is here to provide some entertainment (I hope it served the purpose well).

Anyway, do poll as much as you can on the right. It's a very interesting topic that came from conversations with my friends when they saw the post before this. Of course, more wonderful insights from them

Well, we shall see where the poll heads to. =)

#5 Commitment Freak

I was talking to a bunch of my male colleagues yesterday and they were discussing about one of my part timers who hadn't had a girl friend throughout the whole of his 20 years life.

It wasn't very strange for someone who had no girl friend because it could be due to a lot of reasons like small social circle or some part of the character were just not promissing.
But there weren't any problem with him. He had wide group of friends, looks ok, and hardworking. He even introduced his 2 female friends who are very good looking to work.

That's when most of my male colleagues had the questioning of whether if he is gay. But he vowed that he is not!

The only issue with him was simple. He is only looking for someone who is ready to commit for a long term relationship.

Now for a guy to own this thinking is somehow or rather classify as a very unique specie. Many guys who would just heck it and just go for the nearest river to quench his thirst. Who is still looking for the big and wide ocean just right for him?

The reason for many people to have a good relationship is for the fear of commitment.

And in fact, I usually fall under that category.

I used to have a good guy friend who likes to mix around with girls and be a "good friend" to all of them. I always despise his way of 'mixing' around.
But he used to tell me: If you are commited to one, you only have one. But if you chose to be single, you can have more than one.

And what's wrong with having more friends to be with?

I couldn't help to agree with it now. Isn't it good to be a single with open choice?
The only thing that matters is till when?

When that true love comes, it will. And when that has not arrive, the rest are only passer-by.
This commitment problem only worries those who wish to settle down ASAP. Well if you happened to be that one, freak not. There are ways to get things done. *grin*

Till next time...

#4 P.S I Love You

I know.

It is a good movie for all singles or people who are in love.

If you hadn't catch it, take action quickly!

It has been out for some time.

If you made it, share with us what's your thought on the movie.

I had a few crying babies around me in the theatre.

But yet, everybody had so much laughters too.

I guess if a man can do things like what the man did in the show,

I would die along with him.

Well, the fact is most of us just tend to miss out the details that happened around us.

It is only a bonus if you found one detailed person.

\(^0^)/

P.S: I Love You.

Showing on 14 Feb 2008 in Singapore!

Holly Kennedy (Hilary Swank) is beautiful, smart, and married to the love of her lifea passionate, funny and impetuous Irishman named Gerry (Gerard Butler).

So when Gerrys life is taken by an illness, it takes the life out of Holly.

The only one who can help her is the person who is no longer there.

Nobody knows Holly better than Gerry.

So its a good thing he planned ahead - by leaving her a list of tasks revealed in 10 monthly messages that are intended to ease her out of grief and transition her to a new life.

P.P.S: I love Irishman's Green eyes!

#3 7 Ways To Spent A Date-Free Night!

Facing another date-free night?

Remember my very first post on Being Single, I mentioned about sharing ideas on how you can spent a date-free night? Before going on to the details, I must say that the followings are my personal lifestyle and it need not have to apply to everyone. Anyone who is reading this blog would probably have more ideas than me. (winkz)

Well, are you ready?? Let's go..........!!

(1) You BLOG!

Yes! Being a single allows you to have more time for your own. You're probably a blogger yourself while reading it. Then you'll probably understand sometimes inspirations doesn't come as smooth compared to some other days. At the same time, do you know you can get paid while inspirations are provided?

I'm not joking! You don't have to be XiaXue in order to earn through your blog. Blogsvertise is one of the sites that pays you for blogging. Once you have your account set up and verified, they will send you a product. All you need to do is just mention the product in your blog, provide 3 hyperlinks to their product, and you're done! No endorsement is required.


The minimum requirement is to have a blog (which most people does) and paypal account! Isn't it a good news to a single blogger? Blogsvertise allows you to earn cash and generate extra income from your blog. I've seen successful testimonials from internet marketers who have make use of it. So why not give a shot and see for yourself? It's completely free anyway. A Rich Single In Blogging. How nice? If you aren't a blogger yet, start now! More details on Blogsvertise.

(2) You LEARN!

Singles should always spent time and effort in gaining extra knowledges. First you meet people of the same interest as you open up your social circle. Second, you rise to become a more knowledgable person which adds values and substance to your conversations.

Not only that, you earn extra points once the positive aspects of yourself that is not physically observable are been distinguished. Inner beauty stands only when you bring them out. So if you spent effort on making your mind beautiful, in return you'll be happier.


(3) You CLEAN!

Clean a drawer, closet or a file. I believe for ladies' closet, a periodical cleaning is require. Revamping your closet not only helps in understanding your needs, it reminds of who you want to be. Don't underestimate the power of creating order. External order builds internal order.

(4) You PLAY!

I was playing Mahjong game with my friends last night. Having to said that doesn't mean we meet up and play physically. In fact we met online and played online. I was introduced to Viwawa. There are several games other than Mahjong like the sushi game which plays like Bejeweled and Match It, the memory game. It's a web-based game, no installation required and the platform works like Gunbound and Pangya.

The good thing is you can invite your other single friends into a room and start gossiping while playing Mahjong. If not, get to know more cyber friends if you want.

(5) You WATCH!

If I spent most of my time blogging, the second on the line is watching drama serials. I love dramas and movies, especially Korean. There are a few websites which hosts it. The most popular one will be the Tudou. It is a china site which has not only asian drama serials but american sitcoms too. You name it, they has it.

One of the most complete one that I've seen. Of course you got to search in chinese. If you've problems in hunt for a particular show, do leave me a message, I'll do my best to help. Not only that, I'll share about the shows that I've watched.

(6) You WORK OUT!

All the singles, time for some exercise!!! You work out, you shag out... It keeps your mind free, it keeps your body light, it keeps you from accumulating fats. Now move your body and stop being a crouch potato!

(7) You DRINK!

Ah-ann... You don't go pub/bar alone for drinks. What I meant was drinking coffee. My friend just start out a blog call Koolplaces4coffee. He really went around researching on coffees. He commented on the price, the service quality and the ambience of one's place. Recently he brought us to a very nice place with good views for a coffee. I shall not name where is it. Look out on his blog! *smilez*

Though his blog is not fully set up right now, I'm sure there will be more to come! I guess, for a single to have a drink alone is fine. Enjoying the night to yourself. Sometimes all we need is just some space for ourselves.

Finally, all 7 ways have been revealed. You may have the thought of 'hey, isn't this what I'm doing currently?". Well, yes you're right! We do things similarily because we are singles.

If you've other ideas or experience, do share with us. I hope you've enjoyed the date-free night!

#2 Caution! A Wedding Invitation!

I've been hearing from my friends talking about receiving wedding invitations from friends of their same age. Most of them got freak out when they're not ready for wedding themselves. Just when I was still delighted to receive none, there lies a pink envelope on my table this evening.

If you're in a relationship with the intention of getting marry, perhaps getting all these invitations serve a different purpose from those who are still single. Most of us trembles when we received the 'red bomb' especially when we're getting older. Even though we should celebrate and feel happy for our friends, at the same time it could be a wake up call for all of us.

It can be frightening sometimes. To make matters worse, your family starts dropping hints about settling down. Or maybe they say you've plenty of time, but you feel like time's running short!!

Whichever situation you're in, it is time to take a deep breath, swallow the last bite of wedding cake, and know that when the time and the person is right, it'll happen.

Take the opportunity to boast on how gorgeous and good-looking you are. Didn't someone said the chances of meeting The True One at the wedding places are much higher?

That's beside the point. In conclusion, don't compare yourself to other people, even if they're your friend. It's your life and your schedule.

(Well, I better go for a good dress-up now! )

#1 Being Single

Among the friends that are single, some are always surrounded by painstaking bees but yet strangely they're just not getting themselves attached.

Whereas there're some who envy the good fortune of these friends and wonder where to find all these bees that throw onto them.

Just not to forget the handful of people who regained their status as single not too long ago.

Well, be it whether a bee is buzzing you or you've just simply walked out from a disaster relationship, the most important fact is we're singles!

Being a single is not necessary a bad thing. If you're divorced, separated, or have ended a good relationship, try to recall. Weren't there times that you wished you where single, because the relationship was putting a stop to you from doing some of the things you want to do.

At the same time, if you've been a single for quite some time, and was hoping/dreaming/desiring a good relationship that falls out from nowhere, the advice is never fall into the category of a desperate one.

You can go on dates, make new friends, go out and have a good time, without expecting everyone you meet to fall in love with you, or even wants to date you. With the least expectations, you'll reap the most out of it. Eventually, that someone special will come along.

Whether or not, you're single, it will be always great to have friends around to keep accompany, at the same point of time being a single doesn't mean you can't shop alone, dine alone or watch a show alone.

You're invited to share your ideas and your experience on how to spend a date-free night. Feel free to fill up the chatterbox, and meet some friends here!

Remember, no one needs to know how to be a pro in being a single. The most important thing is be happy while you're still single!

Fall in Love with Being a Single

It's a Saturday night.
And you're all alone.
Perhaps earlier in the day, you were hoping someone ask you out for a dinner.
Or meet you up with a movie ticket.
You probably afraid all your friends have a date and turn you down if you've asked them out.

You've nothing else to do.
Turn on the TV and watch the same drama serial repeating umpteen times.
Go onto the MSN, trying to find a person whom you can talk to.
Surfing the internet, finding yourself all over the same old web page.
Try to update your blog, but there was nothing great to blog about for the whole week.

Then you stumble onto this blog. Fall in Love with Being a Single.
And You realise you aren't alone at all.